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It’s literally been forever since I posted a blog. A year ago this past September to be exact. I think a combination of lack of creativity and time are the culprits, but I never stopped thinking about this blog. I’m almost finished reading a book called the The Artisan Soul, by Erwin McManus and it’s sufficiently set my creative soul on fire! So much so that I had to return to one of my loves, this blog, and talk about one of my favorite topics, fashion.
If you follow my instagram posts, you should be aware that I’m pregnant with baby boy number three (pray for your girl 😂)!
Honestly I love having boys. Heck, I don’t know any different. So as a veteran, I’m not freaking out… well that much!
One of the things I’ve done differently this time around, since it’s my last pregnancy, was enlist the help of a personal trainer. I really wanted to continue to grow in my fitness journey and didn’t want to slow down momentum just because I was pregnant. If Serena Williams can win a grand slam six months pregnant, I can definitely have the fittest pregnancy of my life.
Thank you Jesus that I’m connected with an amazing trainer who has helped me so much. I’m eating clean and training with her twice a week, and I’ve never felt better. At 30 weeks, I have lost a total of 19 inches all over my body while growing baby. I have not experienced pregnancy edema (yet), most of my clothes still fit, and I feel really good! It’s been a great decision.
Although I feel really good, I’m at the stage where I barely want to put on clothes 😂. However, as a working mom I don’t have that luxury. I’ve got a little less than 10 weeks left, so I’ve challenged myself to “stay fine down to the line.” 😂😂😂😂 That’s something my husband would say or this one, “stay fine even with 9… weeks to go”. I’m also taking the minimalist approach to the challenge. Unless you have an endless supply of maternity clothes, most mommas-to-be are limited to the number of items they fit comfortably in the last trimester. So I’ve styled 25 outfits with 9 items of clothing + 1 scarf.
Plaid shirt: Target
leather leggings: Target
Rust sweater: Shop Dress Up
Scarf: Vinnie Louise
Pink Blazer: NY&CO
Houndstooth Blazer: Forever 21
Black Dreas: Motherhood Maternity
Leather Jacket: Marshalls
Africa Sweater: Grass Fields
boots: Bronx Diba
black booties: Target
I’m a creative, but when it comes to planning parties the mere thought of it makes me want to upchuck a little in my mouth🤢. Just ask My hubs, Kenny, #thepartyanimal. Every year his birthday starts to creep around, I have daunting thoughts of him telling me that he wants a party. So far I’ve only had to plan two, but still, I break out in hives just thinking about who to invite, will they come, did I forget anyone, what kind of food, will I inconvenience anyone, where to have it and the list goes on. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love parties but planning them… a whole other story.
Now that children have entered the equation, I feel like they are delivered with another overwhelming feeling–Mom guilt. Moms, don’t we feel guilty for everything? Working moms, stay at home moms, part-time working moms, volunteers moms. There’s always a reason to feel guilty when you’re a mom–which leads me to birthday parties.
A few years ago, when it was Shiloh’s first birthday, I felt completely helpless, so, I enlisted a wonderful friend to help me plan his party. Thank God we survived. This time around it’s Tiago’s first birthday, and with two weeks to until his birthday, I hadn’t planned a thing. I started to feel guilty.
I lamented to my friends and coworkers for a few days, and they gave me the some of the best encouragement, but I still felt the guilt. I wanted to have an obligatory 1st birthday party for Tiago, but we’re in a season of life where our schedules are very full, and it would be nearly impossible.
Would Tiago think I loved him less?😩😩😩Here was a question that played out in my head. You know how the devil tries to play with your mind? After some encouraging words from some of my friends and pinteresting, I pulled myself up and said, “not today satan!” There’s more than one way to celebrate a birthday!
So we decided to have a fun photo shoot for Tiago, got him a few cool toys, and can I tell you he had the time of his life! He thought he was in cake heaven. He loved smiling for the camera and getting dirty. It was perfect for him!
When I was pregnant with Tiago, I was wondering about loving them the same and making sure that everything was equal, but I’m realizing now that equity is more important than equality. Loving them the way they need to be loved individually is the new goal. Besides, they don’t even remember their first birthday anyway. A lot of times us mom’s beat ourselves up for nothing.
When I think back to Shiloh’s party, I remember him hating and screaming at his cake, over stimulated, and needing a nap. The only saving grace was that it was a pool party and he’s a total fish 🐟! He will be 3 soon, and he’s a party animal just like his father. Will I plan a party? Let’s play it by ear. We will cross that bridge in July 😜.
Do you ever experience mommy guilt with birthday parties or anything else? Let me know!
It’s been several months since we’ve chatted and if you haven’t heard yet, We are growing again! I am 37 weeks pregnant with baby number two and this pregnancy has been quite a doozy! But first, a funny story. When I announced my pregnancy several months ago at our monthly staff meeting at work, instead of saying my husband and I will be busy with two babies, I said my husband and I were busy, and now I’m pregnant….not in those exact words, but that’s how it came across lol. So needless to say, I was embarrassed that my baby brain had kicked in so sooner than before. Baby #2 doesn’t have a name quite yet, but we are working on it. His ETA is May 10th and this weekend we thought he was going to make an early arrival, but he changed his mind:). I had contractions all weekend and then all of a sudden they stopped!
I am super ecstatic about baby #2 but nervous as well. I have questions, lots of questions. How will I balance it all? Will Shiloh be jealous? What’s it like having all boys? How will I love them the same but different? OMG, how am I going to get 2 kids out of the house? Will Kenny and I have any alone time? Will I lose the pregnancy weight? And the list goes on and on and on! I’m pretty sure I’m not the first mom to have all of these questions, and surely won’t be the last, but a couple of things I do know that’s comforted me. They are: always pray, necessity is the best teacher, and we will find our new normal just like we did with Shiloh. It may take a while, but I know that we will get there. Are there any mommas out there who’ve experienced this and have advice??
Here are a few of our maternity pics that capture the way we feel about our new baby!
So i’m soooooo excited to be featured in this month’s My Style section of Alive Magazine. I’ve posted the interview below for you all to see! Hope you’re summer is off to a great start!
My Style: Christia DeShields
Story: Interview by Sarah Stallman
Photos: Attilio D’Agostino
Describe your personal style. I consider my style to be boho chic. I’m easy-breezy, but I like to be a little edgy too.
What’s your most recent fashion obsession? A tribal- or floral-print duster.
What runway trends are you loving right now? I’m so excited to see pink, wide-leg pants and floppy hats on the runway. LOVE!
What item from your closet can you not live without? I would be lost without something black. I’m a new mom, and I dodge baby drool on a regular basis. Black is stylish, easy to clean and hides stains.
What are your top five clothing staples? A jumpsuit, shift dress, statement necklace, a beanie and a floral duster.
What is your go-to piece? I live for a good jumpsuit! All you have to do is add jewelry, heels and a bag. It’s so easy and chic.
Is there any person or character whose style you really admire? I love Tracee Ellis Ross’ style—and she’s totally my hair crush!
Who are some of your favorite designers? Betsey Johnson, Gwen Stefani, Rachel Zoe and Michael Drummond are among some of my favorites.
Where do you shop in STL? I absolutely love the boutique scene in STL! Places like BLUSH Boutique, Epiphany Boutique and paperdolls always have a fabulous selection. I frequent the local vintage and thrift stores as well.
What is your biggest fashion pet peeve? I think my biggest fashion pet peeve is when someone is brave enough to try a new hairstyle or clothing style, and then they get criticized for stepping outside of the proverbial fashion box. I’m like, “Would you please let them be great?” But seriously—let people evolve.