Mrs. DeShields…Overcoming Married Life Obstacles

Marriage is a beautiful thing! It’s also probably one of  the toughest things anyone will ever do in their life. Marriage is about being completely vulnerable, emotionally naked and it’s also a mirror that shows you who you really are. Kenny and I are coming up on 3 yrs of marriage and we’ve both grown personally as well as collectively. It’s really quite amazing actually. I love him more today than I ever have. A lot of times people see our pictures and post and think that we’ve had the “perfect” relationship but let me  tel, you that is completely false. We’ve seen some really  dark days, but our commitment to each other, our faith and love brought us through. We also sow into our marriage. Whatever you sow you reap and that what we believe. Here are five ways to reap an amazing harvest in your married life:

1. Date night: Alone time is so important especially when you have children.  When Kenny and I first had Shiloh, we had a date on our deck while he was asleep. We are deliberate about making time for each other no matter how busy we get.

2. Hang out with other happily married couples and ask questions.

It’s great to hang out with newly weds as well as couples who’ve been married a while. It’s great to be inspired by young love and learn wisdom from mature love.  Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask them how they made it.  There’s no dumb question. Real Talk.

3. Seek wise counseling: I highly recommend pre-marital counseling not the “froo froo” stuff but the real deal. Kenny and I read the book Preparing for Marriage and it really forced us to talk about issues that we probably wouldn’t have until they came up in our marriage. We also sought counseling in our marriage.  We’re both messed up people with messed up pasts and counseling was a safe place to process those issues together.

4. Education: Power of a Praying Wife/Husband, Love Dare, The Five Love Languages, and Fire Proof are some amazing marriage books that will help you grow in intimacy with your spouse. I highly recommend all of them.

5. Follow a Marriage Ministry: Following a marriage ministry is so great and really helped us our first two years of marriage.  We learned through Karen and Jimmy Evans. We learned how to create a marriage vision and align our life according to what we sow for our marriage.  Another awesome ministry to follow especially on Instagram is Marriage 365. Casey and Meygan are a really awesome couple that are champions of marriage.  They give great date night tips, encouragement and even help in the bedroom;). One last resource I want to give you is a new online magazine, 2Half2Whole is a marriage magazine that’s goal is to inspire married couples. There are tons of great inspirational marriage stories in the magazine as well as tips.

Marriage life is so wonderful, but you don’t have to do it alone.  There are so many resources available and with Jesus at the center you’re bullet proof.  Loves love ya! Feel free to share your thoughts on this post!

Top: Target Skirt: Blush Boutique


Baby Love Our Baby Love


So, our baby Shiloh Joaquin DeShields was born 6 weeks ago on July 17th at 4:09 a.m. weighing in at 7.8lbs and 21 inches long.  My delivery was the most euphoric experience of my life, that I would relive over and over again.  It was my most amazing husband and an awesome team of nurses and a hilarious doctor that cheered me on through each push.  I felt like a superhero.  Needless to say, this beautiful little person has challenged and changed our whole life and we wouldn’t change it for the world.  He’s growing and changing every day and I almost can’t keep up.  When he was first born he looked exactly like my baby picture, but he’s starting to look more and more like his father every day! We are so excited for this new adventure with the three of us!  Here are some pictures of our little guy below.


~xo

 

 

Field of Dreams… Maternity Edition

Happy Memorial Day all!
I hope you all are enjoying your day! I’m just maxing and relaxing today and as I come to the last leg of this pregnancy I find myself doing that a lot. The nursery is finally coming together (pics later) and with 7 weeks left I’m getting really anxious. My husband has been remarkable through it all, so major shout out to him <3!!!! So I have to let him share what he thinks about this experience…. Be nice babe lol
Lol! Hey guys! This is Kenny, Christia’s husband. Thank you for the opportunity to share my experience about the pregnancy. It really has been an awesome experience, filled with joy, nervousness, excitement and anticipation. 
The time has really flown by. It seemed like just a few months ago we were jumping around the house when we saw the pregnancy test results were positive. And then, next thing you know I was feeling the baby kick in her belly! Now that’s when it got real, real. 🙂
It’s crazy to know that in a few weeks we’ll be holding our baby boy in our arms and you know we’ll post a million pics and blog alllllll about it.
Thanks babe! Hope you all enjoy our pics taken by the amazing up and coming photog Davah Lynn. Outfit deets below!
His                                         Hers
Blazer: Saddlebred                   Flower Crown: DIY
Shirt: H&M                               Dress: Epiphany Boutique in St. Louis
Pants: The Gap                        Make up:  Camille Scott
                                         

                                            

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                
                                
                               
                                  

A Fashion Pause… Let’s talk about Africa

  Hi there – my name is April and I’m a video producer/director living in St. Louis, Missouri. I was raised by two wonderful parents who ingrained in me a strong sense of compassion, fairness, and concern for right and wrong. When I was in college, I heard about the genocide in Darfur and my world was shaken. To learn that a government, in our day and age, is able to exterminate hundreds of thousands of people over a number a years with barely any comment from the rest of civilization was utterly shocking to me.

Shortly after graduating from college, I moved to St. Louis and met a handful of refugees from the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC) and became captivated by their warmth and authenticity. Then I heard their stories. Some saw their family and neighbors slaughtered with machetes right in front of them. Some were forced out of their homes by armed men and sent running through the African wilderness for days and weeks, totally on their own. Many didn’t know what became of their family members or if they were even alive. Yet somehow they had made it to the USA and met my acquaintance, changing my life forever.

It’s easy as Americans to ignore what’s going on in Africa, either because we think it’s irrelevant or because it can be uncomfortable and ugly and complicated. But my Congolese friends cannot ignore or forget.

Four women are raped every five minutes in the DRC. Sexual violence is used as a weapon, effectively tearing apart the entire family unit with a single act. But at Panzi Hospital in Bukavu, Eastern DRC, there are people attempting to help repair these wounds, physical and emotional. I now work with a foundation that helps to fund the hospital, started by a friend of mine, Dr. Lee Ann De Reus, known as Panzi Foundation USA. This summer, along with Lee Ann, I will be traveling to the Congo to shoot a documentary project highlighting the work of Panzi Hospital and the resilience of the women of Eastern DRC. We want to tell POSITIVE stories, because we think everyone is sick of reading about the horrors. I’m taking off of work to go and will be donating my time and using my equipment, but Panzi Foundation USA needs donations to pay for travel expenses. If you’d like to be a part of making this project a reality, please visit the indiegogo page, donate if you can, and share this campaign with your friends, family, and social networks.

 

 

Behind the Scenes of Our Elopement

Eloping was one of the best decisions that Kenny and I made and going with Weddings to Go was an even better one. Let me back up a bit and explain why we decided to go this route in the first place. Actually it was always a dream of mine to get married on the beach, but we were torn because we also wanted our family and friends to witness this joyous occasion. 

This is how we told our fam and friends
This is how we told our fam and friends!!


 As we began planning our majorly over the top wedding the financial and emotional stress became a bit overwhelming  not to mention the fact that we were getting away from the fact that the wedding was about us and our commitment to us. Not about the wedding party, the flowers, what kind of food we served and having the dopest  
D. J.  It was about us and our journey, overcoming major and minor obstacles in our lives, knowing the good, bad and the ugly about each other and yet still willing to say YES!  

Towards the end of November we decided that this was a moment that we wanted to share privately and finding Weddings to Go was a complete God Send. At first we were looking for exotic locations to get married but they all seemed extremely pricey and time didn’t permit all of the legal hoops that we had to jump through. While researching further, I happened to find this website call weddings to go key west. I took a look at it and there were beautiful pictures and hundreds of very positive reviews. Kenny and I gave them a call and within the week we were booked.  Our experience with Ray and Eileen from Weddings to Go was stress free, fun, and relaxing! I would do it again and again!!!!


If ever in Key largo go to Dj’s Diner and Shula burger!!! OMG the best burger I’ve ever had


In Key west Help Yourself is a natural clean eating grow their own herbs and spices type of restaurant

Salmon wrap from Help Yourself Restuarant in Key West

The Good People at Help Yourself gave us a free smoothie right 
before our wedding!!

Sneak Peek of Engagement Pic Photo Shoot

Yesterday Kenny and I took our engagement pics.  The photographer was Ed Rhone of Johan Images, Make-up was done by Jordan Fox.  Kenny styled himself and I wore one of my new designs along with Jewelry by Intriguing Designs, a.k.a. my mom’s jewelry Collection.  We shot on the Delmar loop in St. Louis at a really awesome location.  Pics should be available soon.  I just wanted to give you a sneak peek..This was our after photo shoot, photo shoot. we had just finished eating lunch…lol…..;) xo