Mrs. DeShields…Overcoming Married Life Obstacles

Marriage is a beautiful thing! It’s also probably one of  the toughest things anyone will ever do in their life. Marriage is about being completely vulnerable, emotionally naked and it’s also a mirror that shows you who you really are. Kenny and I are coming up on 3 yrs of marriage and we’ve both grown personally as well as collectively. It’s really quite amazing actually. I love him more today than I ever have. A lot of times people see our pictures and post and think that we’ve had the “perfect” relationship but let me  tel, you that is completely false. We’ve seen some really  dark days, but our commitment to each other, our faith and love brought us through. We also sow into our marriage. Whatever you sow you reap and that what we believe. Here are five ways to reap an amazing harvest in your married life:

1. Date night: Alone time is so important especially when you have children.  When Kenny and I first had Shiloh, we had a date on our deck while he was asleep. We are deliberate about making time for each other no matter how busy we get.

2. Hang out with other happily married couples and ask questions.

It’s great to hang out with newly weds as well as couples who’ve been married a while. It’s great to be inspired by young love and learn wisdom from mature love.  Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask them how they made it.  There’s no dumb question. Real Talk.

3. Seek wise counseling: I highly recommend pre-marital counseling not the “froo froo” stuff but the real deal. Kenny and I read the book Preparing for Marriage and it really forced us to talk about issues that we probably wouldn’t have until they came up in our marriage. We also sought counseling in our marriage.  We’re both messed up people with messed up pasts and counseling was a safe place to process those issues together.

4. Education: Power of a Praying Wife/Husband, Love Dare, The Five Love Languages, and Fire Proof are some amazing marriage books that will help you grow in intimacy with your spouse. I highly recommend all of them.

5. Follow a Marriage Ministry: Following a marriage ministry is so great and really helped us our first two years of marriage.  We learned through Karen and Jimmy Evans. We learned how to create a marriage vision and align our life according to what we sow for our marriage.  Another awesome ministry to follow especially on Instagram is Marriage 365. Casey and Meygan are a really awesome couple that are champions of marriage.  They give great date night tips, encouragement and even help in the bedroom;). One last resource I want to give you is a new online magazine, 2Half2Whole is a marriage magazine that’s goal is to inspire married couples. There are tons of great inspirational marriage stories in the magazine as well as tips.

Marriage life is so wonderful, but you don’t have to do it alone.  There are so many resources available and with Jesus at the center you’re bullet proof.  Loves love ya! Feel free to share your thoughts on this post!

Top: Target Skirt: Blush Boutique


Baby Love Our Baby Love


So, our baby Shiloh Joaquin DeShields was born 6 weeks ago on July 17th at 4:09 a.m. weighing in at 7.8lbs and 21 inches long.  My delivery was the most euphoric experience of my life, that I would relive over and over again.  It was my most amazing husband and an awesome team of nurses and a hilarious doctor that cheered me on through each push.  I felt like a superhero.  Needless to say, this beautiful little person has challenged and changed our whole life and we wouldn’t change it for the world.  He’s growing and changing every day and I almost can’t keep up.  When he was first born he looked exactly like my baby picture, but he’s starting to look more and more like his father every day! We are so excited for this new adventure with the three of us!  Here are some pictures of our little guy below.


~xo

 

 

Field of Dreams… Maternity Edition

Happy Memorial Day all!
I hope you all are enjoying your day! I’m just maxing and relaxing today and as I come to the last leg of this pregnancy I find myself doing that a lot. The nursery is finally coming together (pics later) and with 7 weeks left I’m getting really anxious. My husband has been remarkable through it all, so major shout out to him <3!!!! So I have to let him share what he thinks about this experience…. Be nice babe lol
Lol! Hey guys! This is Kenny, Christia’s husband. Thank you for the opportunity to share my experience about the pregnancy. It really has been an awesome experience, filled with joy, nervousness, excitement and anticipation. 
The time has really flown by. It seemed like just a few months ago we were jumping around the house when we saw the pregnancy test results were positive. And then, next thing you know I was feeling the baby kick in her belly! Now that’s when it got real, real. 🙂
It’s crazy to know that in a few weeks we’ll be holding our baby boy in our arms and you know we’ll post a million pics and blog alllllll about it.
Thanks babe! Hope you all enjoy our pics taken by the amazing up and coming photog Davah Lynn. Outfit deets below!
His                                         Hers
Blazer: Saddlebred                   Flower Crown: DIY
Shirt: H&M                               Dress: Epiphany Boutique in St. Louis
Pants: The Gap                        Make up:  Camille Scott